Tip of the Day

March 10th, 2012
My Last Tip of the Day: From the following list, find the top ten words that describe
the family you want to BE:

supportive, talkative, affectionate, respectful, disciplined, meaningful, caring, accepting, controlled, well-behaved, free, humorous, creative, soft-spoken, energetic, easygoing, engaging, productive, loving, gentle, religious, spiritual, charitable, fun, playful, successful, winning, flourishing, lucrative, unbeaten, prosperous, conquering, cooperative, helpful, obliging, collaborative, sharing, just, fair, adequate, passable, average, reasonable, polite, decent, civilized, honest, well-mannered, proper, correct, moral, wholesome, venturesome, healthy, natural, significant, strong, reverent, polite, civil, gracious, autonomous, independent, self-sufficient, self-reliant, responsible, compassionate, devoted, warm, likable, tolerant, patient, uncomplaining, accommodating, long-suffering, indistinguishable, unnoticeable, disregarded, empathic, generous, kind, liberal, conservative, thrifty, courageous, trustworthy…

…AND THEN GO DO IT!!! When you need help with it, call me!!

Tip of the Day

March 9th, 2012
OK, it is outright dangerous to say one thing and do another in front of your children. It ain’t good for you, either, because then you are lying to yourself. When you do that, you lose self-respect and the respect of your children (and other people, too, for that matter). Why should anyone believe you after that?

Tip of the Day

March 8th, 2012
Model to your children the kind of adult you want them to become. It begins with you. Break the cycle of circular causality. Become a different generation. Do it for them…

Tip of the Day

March 7th, 2012
Here is the good news – You are in a position of tremendous power and influence in the development of your child. Here is the bad news – You are in a position of tremendous power and influence in the development of your child! How are you using this awesome and fabulous opportunity?

Tip of the Day

March 6th, 2012
Did you ever think of this – We allow our environment to control us instead of the other way around. We react (have become reactive) to stimulus in our environment as a normal course of action instead of creating our environment to our liking. This quote is hanging in my office: “I create the world I live in.” Fabulous!

Tip of the Day

March 3rd, 2012
Children need down time, too! Remove dominating external distractions from their lives so they will have time to calm down and come together. External distractions can be: TV watching, chat rooms, surfing the net, downloading music, video games, instant messaging, talking on the phone for hours, texting, shopping…I will have to give you a warning here. If you don’t take down time and eliminate some of these things from YOUR life, neither will they. It will be uphill anyway, make it easier by being an example. Do you know how to relax?

Tip of the Day

March 2nd, 2012
(This just made so much sense to me): “This may well be the most important mission of your life. Your child must be shown with 100% certainty that forbidden behavior will meet with the consequences you’ve laid out. If you don’t enforce those consequences, I can assure you that you’ll sabotage you child’s development. You will confuse him. You will create anxiety and encourage maladaptive behavior. You will dig your own grave and bury your dreams of a happy, healthy family future.” – Dr. Phil

Tip of the Day

March 1st, 2012
Wanna step into a psychological minefield? All you have to do is to abdicate parental control and let your children dominate at your house. Easy peazy…Unfortunately, they are not equipped to lead a family (I would assert that is why we have PARENTS!!!), they are confused, and they feel guilt for taking over. Just like you should feel guilty for allowing this to happen. Just saying…

Tip of the Day

February 29th, 2012
This is old news, but your behavior and actions speak much louder than your words. So if you think that your child will listen to you when you explain something, good luck! He/she will watch you instead and make sure that you do what you say, i.e. keep your word.

Tip of the Day

February 27th, 2012
NEWSFLASH: Research is very clear on that children who are over-indulged (with things/toys) are typically unhappy! My suggestion is to give them less things and more love! When children were asked what they want from their parents most, the answer was – TIME – time to play, pitch baseball, go to the park…Wow! Do you notice how much that costs?